Compassionate Change Coaching


The Habit Loop

Are You Stuck?

Sometimes when we try to change our behavior, like quitting smoking or starting a new hobby, it seems mysteriously hard to make it happen. This makes sense if you look at how habits show up in the brain.

Research has demonstrated that the majority of our behaviors are automated. This part of your brain is actually separate from the frontal lobe which helps you to make critical decisions and to apply logic to problems.

If you want to change a behavior, then you need to know how to access and re-program the habit part of your brain (basal ganglia). Sound complicated? Don’t worry, I’ll walk you through it!

Have You Ever Thought…

  • I just can’t seem to make this really important change.
  • I’ve failed before, so it seems like no use.
  • Change is supposed to be hard right?
  • I’m scared I’m not living the life I want.
  • I can be really hard on myself when I fail.


I do a session with Cynthia when I need to cut to the chase and get to the bottom of what is actually motivating me, which I can’t see at the moment.  She is ridiculously smart, has a huge amount of life experience, takes risks, is responsible in her own life and always sees the good in anyone in any circumstance.  If you are looking for some clarity in the muddy waters of life, spend some time with Cynthia.

M. Butler, Software Engineer
Cynthia, I just have to tell you that the work we have been doing with self-compassion has completely changed how I’m approaching my work and my life. Thank you so much for doing this important work.
Robert Schuller CPA

This year I made a big change and started my dream business using Interplay to promote mind and body health. Cynthia helped me to practice self-compassion and overcome fears and obstacles to make it happen. Together we created a working plan to launch my business and I’m proud to be taking clients!

Christine Nichols Gautreaux, LMSW











Compassionate Change Coaching


What is It?

Compassionate Change Coaching was developed by Dr. Cynthia Phelps and uses a combination of techniques to  help help you make that difficult life change. It’s based on research in Self-Compassion, Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavior Strategies, and the Neuroscience of Behavior Change.

Coaching is different from therapy in that it guides you to solve immediate problems, and stays focused on the present state of your life. Coaching is a highly practical process to get you the life you want. Compassionate Change Coaching helps you to improve your relationship with yourself, so you can reap all of the benefits of having high self-compassion, which includes better odds at behavior change.

What Can I Expect?

During the coaching process we will meet weekly and set goals to improve your recovery and your life. Each week we will assess our progress, talk about shifting priorities, solve problems, engage in an exercise to build self-compassion skills, and set homework and new goals for the next week.

Typically each coaching session will last an hour and you will be provided with a short summary of the session and a set of things to accomplish before the next session. Coaching can be done face-to-face if you are located in San Antonio, or over Skype or by phone.

How Much Does it Cost?

Free 30 minute Consult.

Coaching Package – 6 session 6 weeks $499

The coaching package comes with:
  • Progress tracking with pre and post testing.
  • Customized coaching plan based on your goals, strengths and challenges.
  • Weekly email with your explorations for the week.
  • OMG insurance – a 15 minute call to use when you are really struggling.

Make a declaration: “I’m ready for change.” Commit to a package now!

Session by session coaching is $100 per hour.


Mindful Self-Compassion

Dr. Phelps completed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher training program in 2015 in Garrison NY.

MSC is a program created by Dr. Kristin Neff and is effective at raising people’s levels of Self-Compassion. Self Compassion is critical for behavior change, as research shows that people who are able to treat themselves kindly are more motivated to change, and better able to sustain long-term changes.

We will use MSC along with tried and true methods such as cognitive behavioral techniques to help you make that change you have been longing for.